1. He Only Pretends Not to Listen.

He heard what you said. Hes just not interested in hearing it at the moment. Dont try to give your man instructions or talk about your feelings when hes watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading, or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His mind is on other things like: will his team win, his day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed response, youll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you, youll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be content and walk away.

2. He Does Look at Other Women.

Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, its just a passing glance. Its not like we dont check guys out too!

3. He Needs Time Away From You.

Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It doesnt mean that they dont want to be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home. So lighten up, while hes out of the house, take the kids out or get a babysitter and go something you enjoy.

4. He Doesnt Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes

Youve probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesnt do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking, Thank Goodness! Men do things at their own pace. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, its still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash. In his mind, the trash isnt going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.

5. He Really Enjoys Gossip

If your man overhears you gossiping on the phone, hell probably shake his head in disapproval. However, if he talks about Joe and Margaret, his co workers who are having an affair, its not gossip. Actually men enjoy to gossip. They just have a different name for it Commenting.

6. Yes, He Was Thinking About Sex

Your man has a far away look in his eyes. He seems distant. He was thinking about sex. He cant help it, he thinks about it several times a day. Wouldnt you prefer that he thinks about it several times a day rather than having sex several times a day?

7. When His Voice Goes High, or He Answers a Question With the Same Question, Hes Thinking of a Lie.

If you ask your man, What Youd Do Today? and he replies What Id Do Today? hes probably thinking of lie. It doesnt mean that he did something inappropriate, just something you wouldnt approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the guys. If he told you this, youd be upset because you had a long day at work or at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too much fun to think about if you would ask him that question, so he didnt plan a lie beforehand.

8. Nothing is Wrong, So Stop Asking Him

Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, Whats wrong? and he replies, Nothing, Im just thinking. Well, this answer doesnt satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy with him, how he can make more money, how he doesnt want to grow old and fat, or how he would really like to buy that sports car. Ask him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like talking.

9. Most Men are Conquerors and Most Women are Venters

You just told him about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You wanted to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when theres a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He cant relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.

10. He Wants to Feel Successful.

A man needs to feel he has accomplished something in life, and often times that accomplishment is found in their jobs or careers. Men dont like to feel conflicted between work and quality time with their families. To men, if they are working hard to earn money, this will improve the quality of their familys life.

Marie Roker

Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal Development Coach with Smart Bee Coaching LLC. She is also the author of Successful Thinking for a Successful Life and a Certified Breakthrough Parenting Instructor.

Marie has coached women through A Hands up Coaching, a volunteer coaching program for lower income women who want to gain their confidence and make improvements in their lives. Marie is also Director of Public Education for Developing Hearts Systems, a non profit organization educational publisher of Bonding with Baby developmental books.

Marie has a BA from Fordham University and is completing her MA at Columbia University?s Teachers College. Marie also received her coach training from Coachville and is a founding member of International Association of Coaches.